The mood has been heavy in my household as our family has been deep in discussion about the systemic racism that's been witnessed on a global scale.
I've not been overly active online. Refraining from putting out content in favor of spending my time learning, listening, and understanding.
My 17-year old daughter, Chardonae, is an activist at heart and always thinking about how we can be part of the change. With passioned tears streaming down her cheek, she reminded us that we need to live the change. That she doesn't want to live in a world where people are treated so unjustly and persecuted for the color of their skin. That talking is not enough. It takes purposeful, peaceful action to live the changes we wish to see in the world.
I've never been so proud of her.
Right away, as a family, we made a commitment to learning what we can. Turning our attention to podcasts, films, books, and other media sources to learn further about the issues at hand and how we can do our part to aid in ending systemic racism. (resources linked below)
Deepening of Learning, Understanding, and Listening starts at Home
We're also listening to the Black community. We want to deepen our understanding and knowledge of both their experiences and the pain, frustration, and anger being felt.
On May 31st, to further our understanding and to be a part of the change, we participated in a peaceful protest at the Vancouver Art Gallery. I felt overwhelmed by emotions as I realized that my beloved city of Vancouver saw 3,500 people showing up on a day's notice! 3,500 people — of all colors — showed up to give their support while offering their voices and energy to a global movement.
A document entitled, ‘Anti-Racism Resources‘ that contains numerous links to books, articles, podcasts, organizations, and more to help educate us all on the history of race in North America, and how we as individuals can help to eliminate hate from society.
Have you ever thought that some people seem to have great lives and others don’t – despite working hard to have everything they want?
For so many people, life has become a cycle of acceptance – accepting that this is their life and that this is as good as it gets. Maybe you’re stuck in a routine life that you never figured would be yours.
You’re the one getting up, going to work, maybe hitting the gym afterward, waiting for the weekend to relax with friends, or hit a party or two, and then Monday morning the same cycle starts all over again.
Right now, you may be having some disquieting thoughts about your own life, feeling a sense that something’s just not quite right. It’s not that you’re miserable – this life you’re living just isn’t what you’ve bargained for, what you thought it would be like.
Instinctively, you just know within yourself that you were born for more than what you’re currently experiencing. If that’s the way you feel, then there’s something you should know.
You can learn how to wield the positive energy within yourself to make any of the changes happen that you’d like to see occur. The power to make changes in your life – big and bold or simple changes – is within your grasp.
You never ever must simply settle for anything in any area of your life. You were meant to have it all in abundance. Whatever you intend to be in life or to have in life – in all areas can happen through the wonderful power of using the Law of Attraction.
What Is the Law of Attraction?
The law of attraction is the practice that your thoughts have the potential to create concrete results or changes in your life. Whether those results are negative or positive will depend on the way that you think – the focus of your mental energy.
Whatever you think – the positive or negative energy – is sent out into the universe. Therefore, your thoughts are causally related to your life situations. There are laws in the universe and to change your life, you must know what those laws are and how to use them.
It doesn’t matter how old you are, how much money you make, or what your personality type is, the Law of Attraction is available to everyone. What you dwell on in your thought life will manifest in your life.
Or you thought something positive was going to happen and it did? When you believe it and expect it, you’re tapping into the Law of Attraction. Your actions help determine the outcome to some degree.
The universe takes the thoughts you think and combines with the metaphysical. If you zero all your focus on negative things and live in negativity, that’s what you will attract back to you and bring into your life – the bad things.
The thoughts a person thinks will begin to affect his or her actions. If you don’t believe that you’re good enough for that special relationship or for that promotion in your office, then you won’t be.
You won’t be because you’ll start with a negative focus and that negative focus will lead you to actions that sabotage the very things you want out of life. Even if you don’t recognize it, you might sulk and pout and that could lead to someone else being chosen for the job.
The universal law that the Law of Attraction is bound up in means that your inner thoughts – what you cannot see – impact what you can see – the circumstances of your life.
The Law of Attraction is what you use in your life and sometimes you might have used it without even realizing it, but it’s what you use to create a cause and effect in your life.
Don’t turn your thoughts’ focus on anything that can bear a negative impact. If you have a lot of unpaid bills, instead of dwelling on that, change your focus. Shift it over and instead start thinking about the positive ways that more money is going to come into your life.
Think about the positive results of getting a promotion or how that you’ll use your talent or skills in ways that they’ll be appreciated and will bring in the kind of income you deserve to have.
Practice visualizing what you’d like to have in life. If you have trouble doing that, keep a notebook and write down the positive changes that you want to occur. Visualize it as having already happened.
Understanding how to use the Law of Attraction and applying it in the areas of your life that you want to be changed can bring about amazing results and give you the satisfaction you may be missing.
You can use the Law of Attraction to bring about greater financial wealth, better health, a stronger, less stressful life, and greater relationships.
Whatever it is that you want or want to change is possible.
Most people want to know if the Law of Attraction has the promise of attracting love or good in all their relationships and the answer is a resounding yes.
How to Use the Law of Attraction for Love and Relationships
The universal law within the Law of Attraction is that you must believe it to receive it. If you believe that you will attract love and the kind of healthy relationships that you deserve, then you will. It’s that simple.
The first step is to look deep within yourself. You can’t bring harmony into your life if you’re at discord within yourself. You’ll know that you’re experiencing discord in your emotional core if you’re still struggling with feelings of anger, bitterness, or disillusionment when it comes to love and relationships.
You must be able to love yourself and you must know that your happiness in life is not bound up in anyone else’s actions or reactions. You need to release others from being responsible for your happiness or emotional well-being.
Once you practice that, you’ll send out positive thoughts from the center of contentment within you and the universe will pay you back in kind. The way that the Law of Attraction works to bring good relationships into your life is that it works on a metaphysical wavelength.
The vibrations of your thoughts are sent out into the world. What you send out reverberates back in every single situation in your life. If you take your thoughts and you dwell on negative things about relationships, that’s what you unleash back.
That’s why it’s so important that you be free from any past hurts caused by negative relationships. Stop any negative emotions you’re feeling and stop feeling like you’re not worthy.
Stop doubting that you deserve the good life has to offer.
Wanting positive changes outwardly while harboring negative self emotions will not allow the power of the Law of Attraction to be released in your life.
Don’t engage in any negative self-talk.
Think about all your good and positive qualities. You must be a positive, open receptacle for the Law of Attraction to flow toward you. You want the message that you send out to the universe to be a positive one.
If you currently have a steady relationship, but it’s not going as well as you feel it should, you must stop thinking about or dwelling on any flaws in your partner or in the relationship.
If you don’t have a partner yet and struggle with thinking that you don’t deserve love or don’t deserve a good relationship with a relative or someone you care about, then that negativity will prevent it from happening.
If a romantic relationship is what you’re looking for, think positively about the relationship you want to have. Think about the positive traits that you want your significant other to manifest in his or her life.
The energy within your thoughts – the belief to receive – is drawing power that the Law of Attraction uses to make the differences in your life. Keep your thoughts focused only on the good that’s to come in a relationship you don’t have yet.
If you already have a relationship with say your parents or your siblings or some friends and there’s a lot of family drama bogging you down and clogging up the relationships, then release that negativity.
Let go of the baggage. This will harness the metaphysical law that the Law of Attraction is based on and put it to work for you by attracting or drawing toward you the right relationship and the right relationship dynamics.
How would you act if every day you were surrounded by people who loved you? People who were supportive of you? Live life each day as if that’s what you have.
Wealth and the Law of Attraction
What many people want to know when it comes to the Law of Attraction is if it can be used to attract wealth and the answer is yes, it can. The Law of Attraction has a great deal of energy and when you tap into that energy, you end up with exactly what you want.
Of all the universal laws, the Law of Attraction is the one that gives wings to whatever it is that your thoughts dwell on. Whatever it is you think about will grow and reach its potential.
This happens because the Law of Attraction is a universal law that responds to your focus. Focus on health and the Law of Attraction responds. Same thing for wealth. You are the reason behind your life situations and only you can change it.
How much money you’ll have in your life solely relies on what your focus is concerning wealth and how you visualize money. Do you think that some people are destined to have plenty of money and that some people aren’t?
If that’s the way that you think, then you’re wrong. Wealth is available for everyone equally. If you look at the life of someone who has plenty of money, lives in a nice house and takes lavish vacations and think that will never be you, then you’re right, it won’t.
Because what just happened was as soon as you entertained that negative thought, you made it your reality. You tapped into the vibrations of the metaphysical within the Law of Attraction and you sent that attraction spiraling away from you.
If you look at people with plenty of money to live the kind of life they choose to live, you’ll notice that they don’t focus on the money. They expect it to be there. It’s one of the reasons why many wealthy people don’t talk about money.
It simple is in their life. It’s a by-product of the way they think about and visualizes wealth. Money doesn’t mean the same to them in the same amounts that it does for people who don’t have the kind of wealth they’d like to have.
For someone who is wealthy, having $100,000 on hand would seem like spare change while to others not used to having that kind of money, it would seem astronomically huge.
To make the Law of Attraction work for you around wealth, you must change how you view money. Think about what you would consider being a large amount of money.
For some people, that might be $1,000 while for others, that might be $100,000. Once you have your amount in mind, don’t put your focus on the money. Money doesn’t have any power – it’s neither good nor evil and it can’t make you happy or sad.
Only you have the power to do that. So then how do the Law of Attraction and money go hand in hand? It’s what you think about money in the Law of Attraction that will put the law to work for you.
If you want to start bringing more money into your life, then think about the amount and think about it is your normal. Picture whatever amount you’d like to have as being what’s meant for you. Simply accept it as what you should have and expect it to be yours.
If you think about a certain amount of money and then think that it will never happen for you or that it seems like way too much money for you to ever have, then you’ve pushed out a negative vibration into the universe.
The universe doesn’t consider money in any form of amounts. It simply exists. You’re the one that has the power to draw it to you. Start by thinking about an amount you’d like to have. Don’t see it as a one-time occurrence like getting a huge check or winning some sort of lottery. See it as your life – your normal financial setting.
Learn to see what you’re worth in a different light. If you’re working at a job and you’re being underpaid and you know that you’re being underpaid, don’t make the mistake of falling into the mindset that you’re simply fortunate to have a job in this economy. Don’t make the mistake of settling for less wealth than you deserve.
Because even during times when the economy is rotten, people are thriving financially. New businesses are being created and individuals are succeeding because they expect to and they’re positive that they’re going to.
Look around and notice that when some people have a catastrophic event such as a job loss – they decide to create their own job and their own wealth. That’s why you hear so many stories about people who lose their jobs and end up becoming wealthy.
They refuse to give in to the negativity and they don’t focus on the situation. Instead, they focus on and visualize what they want. You can’t make wealth your focus. If you look at people who work simply for the money the career brings in, you’ll notice that those are the people who are unhappy and seem less fulfilled in their lives. Despite making a lot of money, most of them don’t even like their job.
Not all wealth comes in the form of getting more money. Some wealth is found in an inner peace from having a career that satisfies something within you – such as a career where you make a difference in the lives of others.
Some people find that the Law of Attraction works to give them a meaningful career that gives them a lot of joy and peace. They believe in their talents, they’re passionate about their work and have a vision of what they want that career to mean for them and because it’s fulfilled, others notice their lives are happier.
Law of Attraction for Weight Loss
What you think becomes reality. If you think that you’re fat, then you are. If you believe that you will never lose weight, then you won’t.
Your thoughts will bring to you the exact vibration from the universe that you give you. If you send out thoughts of not being able to succeed in losing weight, then you won’t overcome that until you change your thoughts.
Check out the people who have been wildly successful in weight loss even to the point of losing hundreds of pounds. No new information about weight loss suddenly appeared on the market.
What changed was the way the people thought about their weight loss journey. They turned from the negative can’t do it to the positive, “I’ve made up my mind and it’s happening” way of thinking.
The universe responds by affirming that belief.
In weight loss, you will attract what you think and what you think will become the visualization of your weight loss journey. Your visualization will give then determine what your attitude is toward losing weight.
You can’t help it if you were never taught how to eat properly and you gained a lot of weight. You can’t help it if health problems have packed pounds on to your frame. But what you must do is not to focus on what you can’t help. Those are the negatives and those negatives will embed themselves in your life to keep you exactly where you are.
Memorize this: you can’t change what you can’t change, but you can change what you can change. You are the master of how you allow things to affect you – of whether you let things and situations give you a negative viewpoint in life. You have the power to make any change happen.
Don’t visualize yourself as better looking or happier once the weight is off. You must love and accept yourself the way you are right now. Love yourself, accept yourself, and take care of yourself.
How can you use the Law of Attraction to do this?
How do you change what you want to change about your weight? Stop focusing on all the negatives about weight loss. Don’t dwell on what you can’t do such as, “I can’t have that second (or third) helping of pizza,” instead of keeping your thoughts fixed on what you will gain. Stay focused on all the positives associated with weight loss.
Such as, “I’m going to get that new outfit because I am slender enough to fit into it.” Decide that the battle of the bulge has already been won and then treat yourself as if it has. Expect positive results and you’ll get them.
Using the Law of Attraction for Stress Relief
There’s no secret to the negative impact that stress can have on a person’s life. You want to eliminate stress immediately.
Not only is stress bad for your health, but stress can lead to all sorts of negative thoughts, which in turn will attract the negativity back into your life. So, you’ll want to take immediate steps to get rid of the stress in your life.
You might be thinking that you’re stuck in an awful job with the world’s greatest boss and that there’s no way you could possibly think anything positive about it much less have something positive result from it.
But that’s because you don’t realize how the Law of Attraction works to handle stress.
First, whatever it is that’s going on in your life – whatever thing it is that puts knots in your stomach or has you tossing and turning at night – you need to make a list of each of those things.
That’s not because you’re going to stare at the list or dwell on it. Just the opposite. What you’re going to do is to take those negatives and learn how to make them over into a positive.
That doesn’t mean that tomorrow or the next day you’re going to walk into your job and tell your boss exactly what he can do with the job that has you so stressed. What it means is that you’re going to take control of your thoughts and how you see your job and the Law of Attraction is going to change your life.
Once you have that list ready, you must come up with what’s good about the negative situation. For example, a hateful boss will teach you about getting along with unkind people.
A reversal in your financial situation could be turned into a positive by teaching you about being frugal, by taking your focus off of having a materialistic mindset and giving you a mindset of knowing what’s truly important in life. There is ALWAYS something positive no matter what the situation is.
You must remember that you don’t see everything at once. You only get a glimpse of your life in small increments. Your story is not complete, and you don’t know how that negative thing can be exactly what you may need.
Once you have written down something good about each negative thing, change how you see that situation. Put into practice visualizing what it is you’d like to see happen in every negative situation that you listed.
How to Create a Proper Vision Board
Why it’s important to have one: a vision board will help you to see what it is that you want the Law of Attraction to do for you. You can have a board for each area of your life, or you can have a board that focuses on one area at a time. Our brains take visual snapshots and hold on to what we visualize. It’s easier to keep focused on what we can see.
What you’ll need: something to attach the pictures on. Most people use a piece of poster board or a board like you see used in a child’s science fair project. Whatever you prefer is fine.
You’ll also need a way to attach the items onto your vision board. You can use tape, or you can use stick glue. You might also want to get some labels for your vision board.
What many people do when creating their vision board is to take pictures of what they want the Law of Attraction to bring into their lives and attach them to their board. You can do this by going through magazines or printing images offline. Some people also use photographs that they’ve taken themselves.
You can do this and by arranging the pictures, create a beautiful collage of what you want to see happen. This might be pictures of a new home or a new vehicle or the direction you’d like to see your career take.
But what you can also do is to put up certain phrases that help you focus as well as bits of words – your own or something else’s – like quotes that help you to affirm your focus.
The look of your vision board will depend on how much or how little you want to do with your board. You can put a lot of energy into it or just have something simple that helps you to visualize what you want.
When you can see images, it helps you imagine and believe that the image can happen for you. Whatever you place on your vision board needs to be an image or words that stir you, that make your emotions come to light and make you feel happy or passionate or moved.
Some of the categories you might want on your vision board could include wealth, love and relationships, health, career, or material possessions.
You can have areas of your vision board where you write on the labels and affix them to a different picture in one of the categories. For example, you might want to write, “I will live in a house like this” and fix that label onto the image of a home you want to live in.
Make sure that you don’t make your vision board and then tuck it away out of sight. You want to keep it where you can see it daily.
There’s no right or wrong way to make your board. You can place the pictures in any order, and they can even overlap if you want them to. You can use scrapbook supplies to add color and highlights. You can mix pictures with words you’ve cut out of a magazine or printed out.
Don’t limit what you place on your vision board. If you want something out of life, put it up there. While some people list a date when they created their vision board and a date when they saw their visualization become reality, don’t make the mistake of putting an expiration date.
Don’t write, “I want to live in this 4,000 square foot home by this date” because the Law of Attraction doesn’t work that way.
The Wrong Way to Use the Law of Attraction
A big mistake that people make with the Law of Attraction is found in their expectations. They fail to completely understand how the universe works and they expect results from what they want to change in their lives to happen right away.
A mistake is thinking that the Law of Attraction is magic. You must understand that the Law of Attraction is not a genie in a bottle. You don’t change the way you think, focus on what you want, let go of the negativity, and then suddenly everything is exactly what and how you want it to be.
The place you are in life and what’s going on in your life right now is a manifestation of the Law of Attraction that you’ve already lived. In other words, what you have today is part of the cause and effect for the day you already lived.
Another mistake is to focus on what you don’t have. I want a big house because I don’t have a big house. My house is too small, etc. You’re focusing on the negative.
Not visualizing and sticking to the visualizing is the wrong way to use the Law of Attraction. The universe doesn’t work on your timetable – and self-doubt and impatience are a sign that you have some wrong beliefs about the way the universe works.
Make sure that what you believe lines up with what you want. If you want something, you can have it through the Law of Attraction but if you want it and don’t believe it will happen, then it won’t.
Thinking that you can treat the Law of Attraction like a get rich scheme is the wrong way to use the Law of Attraction and the universe will not respond to a focus or belief that stems from anything that’s negative.
The wrong way to use the Law of Attraction is to think that all you must do is believe and then not do anything else. You must focus on what you want. You must visualize it as if it’s already come to pass and know it’s going to happen.
Allowing the Law of Attraction to Evolve with Your Life
What happens when you use the Law of Attraction to reach your goals?
Or what happens when you set a goal (say you wanted a college degree) but then changed your mind? What happens then? Is that it? You’re done with the Law of Attraction?
No, the Law of Attraction remains in place even when you’ve achieved what you’ve visualized. What you need to do once you reach what you’ve visualized is to set a new goal, see a new visualization. You want to do this to keep the Law of Attraction at work in your life.
What happens if you don’t allow the Law of Attraction to evolve is that what you intend for your life begins to diminish.
When that happens, you become affected by self-doubts. You can begin to lose your inspiration and passion for the direction that you want your life to move in and for what you’d like to see happen in your life.
Remember that what you’re doing today, even though you may have reached your goals, will affect your tomorrow's because that’s how the Law of Attraction works.
37 of My Favorite Inspirational, Motivation Quotes on the Law of Attraction
Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it. — Maya Angelou
Beware of what you set your heart upon…for it shall surely be yours. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Everyone visualizes whether he knows it or not. Visualizing is the great secret of success. – Genevieve Berhrend
Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics. – Albert Einstein
Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. Everything you want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it. – Jack Canfield
Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced. – Soren Kierkegaard
Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so he is. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true. – Napoleon Hill
Minds are like flowers, they only open when the time is right. ― Stephen Richards
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Most people are thinking about what they don’t want, and they’re wondering why it shows up over and over again. – John Assaraf
Set your mind on a definite goal and observe how quickly the world stands aside to let you pass. – Napoleon Hill
“Some say if you want success surround yourself with successful people. I say if you want true and lasting success surround yourself with people of integrity.”
― Charles F. Glassman”
The ancestor of every action is … thought. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
The idea is the first currency of the Universe, so pay attention to the ideas that are in harmony with your vision. – Mary Morrissey
The law of attraction states that whatever you focus on, think about, read about, and talk about intensely, you’re going to attract more of into your life. – Jack Canfield
The mind has a powerful way of attracting things that are in harmony with it, good and bad. ― Idowu Koyenikan
The only person you are destined to become is… the person you decide to be. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
The only time you fail is when you fall down and stay down. ― Stephen Richards
The vast majority of people are born, grow up, struggle, and go through life in misery and failure, not realizing that it would be just as easy to switch over and get exactly what they want out of life, not recognizing that the mind attracts the thing it dwells upon. – Napoleon Hill
There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge. Both poverty and riches are the offspring of thought! – Napoleon Hill
Though we travel the world over to find the beautiful, we must carry it within us, or we find it not. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Thoughts become things. If you see it in your mind, you will hold it in your hand. – Bob Proctor
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
To different minds, the same world is a hell and a heaven. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
To live your greatest life, you must first become a leader within yourself. Take charge of your life, begin attracting and manifesting all that you desire in life. – Sonia Ricotti
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. – Marcus Aurelius
We often become what we believe ourselves to be. If I believe I cannot do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. When I believe I can, I acquire the ability to do it, even if I didn’t have it in the beginning. – Gandhi
What you feel about another person, what you think or say about another person, what you do to another person – you do to you. Give judgment and criticism and you give it to yourself. Give love and appreciation to another person or anything, and you give it to yourself. ― Rhonda Byrne
What you think you become. What you feel you attract. What you imagine you create. – Buddha
Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life. – Tony Robbins
When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds. – Patanjali
When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you. ― Shannon L. Alder
Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way you are right. – Henry Ford
You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be. – Napoleon Hill
You create your thoughts, your thoughts create your intentions and your intentions create your reality. – Wayne Dyer
Your whole life is a manifestation of the thoughts that go on in your head. – Lisa Nichols
Meditation and mindfulness have gained their momentum in the last years, even though it has been practiced since 1500 BCE. It is an old practice that was firstly adopted by the Asian culture, beginning to spread on the globe in the 19th century.
More and more people are aware of the positive effects of meditation. There are many forms, including mindfulness, transcendental, or guided meditation. It helps you train your attention and focus it on more positive things, while also helping you to accept yourself as who you are.
Meditation is helpful, especially during these confusing and hard times we are living.
Anxiety, worries, sadness, and fear are normal emotions every one of us is experiencing in specific situations. They are normal, even though many people try to avoid them by repressing them.
The word “negative” triggers a reaction in our brain; adds up the society's constraints and demands and the situation is worse.
Nowadays, anxiety disorders are more and more common, and many people are experiencing high levels of them, which interfere with their lifestyle and mental health. Anxiety disorders can turn out to be difficult to overcome and professional help is needed.
The Symptoms of Anxiety
If you are experiencing anxiety in stressful situations, such as public speaking, you need to know that this is normal. Negative emotions are part of our everyday lives and repressing them might do worse than good.
Anxiety is good for us as it helps us anticipate future events and prevent them. It sometimes can be a warning signal and since antiquity, anxiety helped our ancestors survive. In healthy intensities, anxiety can be good. But which is the point when it becomes toxic?
Anxiety can become chronic and it can seriously affect your lifestyle and relationships. Anxiety disorders are a group of mental disorders that include panic disorder, social anxiety, or generalized anxiety disorder.
They can have many effects, both on your physical and mental health. Among the physical symptoms of anxiety are muscle tension, sweaty hands, shortness of breath, palpitation, and upset stomach. Anxiety’s effects on your mind can make you constantly worried, experience fear and confusion, poor memory, be unable to relax, and have difficulties concentrating.
All these symptoms make people with anxiety uncomfortable and helpless, not being able to fully enjoy life. The sources of anxiety are your thoughts and past experiences. Your brain has learned something from your past and it triggers your anxious thoughts whenever it notices cues in the environment you should pay attention to.
Getting rid of anxiety comes with challenges and hardships to overcome. But the most important thing is that you should start working on your thought patterns and unhealthy cognitive schema that drive your anxious behavior.
Getting professional help and starting the therapy is recommended, especially if you feel hopeless and helpless. Meditation is another technique you can practice reducing your anxiety level. It works better in combination with therapy and it has many positive effects.
So, how can meditation help you get rid of anxiety?
It Quiets Your Brain
Anxious brains are continually active, as they are on a constant alert to notice cues from the environment that can negatively affect you. Your brain directs your attention to specific triggers in the environment or specific moments or situations. Thus, a chain reaction starts, and you end up sweating, with an upset stomach and shortness of breath.
Meditation can help you quiet your overactive brain. It helps you relax and find your inner peace while silencing your anxiety. Meditation is a technique that helps you focus on your bodily sensations and thoughts, without interfering with them.
It helps you let go of your past, even if it’s just for a few moments in the beginning, and it helps you focus on the present. It directs your attention towards a better stimulus, a more positive and peaceful one.
Meditation Helps You Relax
Anxiety is characterized by an inability to relax, and this is because you are in a constant state of worry. You focus on the past and the future, but never on the present. You forget to take care of your body and mind as you constantly focus on “what if” questions or ruminate about past events.
Meditation helps you focus on your body. It helps you notice its weight, its temperature, and shape. Besides, all forms of meditation involve breathing techniques that are known to be anxiety relievers. While you meditate, you enter another realm: the realm of relaxation and calm.
Meditation Teaches You How to Breathe
One of the mistakes people do involuntarily is hyperventilating. When we are scared, stressed, or anxious, we begin to breathe faster and faster and this is a trigger for our brain. It thinks we are in danger, so it releases hormones that should help us face it.
Deep breathing techniques also help you improve your focus power, decrease emotional reactivity and mind wandering. Exactly what someone with anxiety needs to combat its effects.
Meditation Helps You Be Less Judgmental
We all know that our greatest critics are ourselves. Even though this can have positive effects, as noticing and repairing mistakes, improving our skills and abilities, it can lead to a more anxious state of mind.
Anxiety makes you focus excessively on your past mistakes. It makes you make up future scenarios in your mind, preventing you from living and enjoying life at its fullest. Being too judgmental makes you embark on a journey of negativity and negative emotions and experiences.
Meditation is the best solution to this. Of course, you also need to work on your cognitive patterns, as thoughts are the sources of our habits and behaviors. However, meditation is a step you need to take and a great technique that can lower your judgment level. Meditation promotes self-acceptance.
It helps you focus on the present and understand that your life is made both from good and bad moments. There is no life without problems, so no matter how much you work to avoid them, they will come sooner or later. Meditation helps you change your perspective on your problems. It helps you acquire a state of nonjudgmental acceptance.
Meditation Changes Your Perspective
Think about anxiety as a pair of lenses. You are the one that chooses their color. This pair of lenses are the ones you usually use to get a perspective on your lifestyle, habits, and behaviors. Anxiety can slowly change the color of the lenses, by darkening it with negative thoughts and emotions in unhealthy levels.
We are often caught in our circle of thoughts. Even though we are not fully conscious of them, we have about 70.000 thoughts per day going up in our minds. Quite a lot! We can easily become overwhelmed by them, especially when anxiety directs our attention to certain subjects.
Meditation helps you get a new perspective. It helps you focus on the present and move away from the chatter and noise in your head. It helps you relax and be calmer, thus keeping stress away. And less stress means less anxiety. It helps you be more self-aware of the impact of your thoughts on your behavior. It helps you aim to change them and your perspective along with them.
Meditation Helps You Be More Aware
Meditation helps you become more aware of your thoughts. Many people are aware of their thoughts, but not fully. They try to change their anxious thoughts without listening and understanding. And to get rid of anxiety, you firstly need to understand your core.
Imagine that you have many monkeys in your head, each of them being responsible with a set of thoughts. There are so many thoughts going up in our heads! However, when you have anxiety, you listen to only one of them: the loudest one.
The loudest one doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s the best option, but you hardly attempt to change this. Meditation is the solution. It helps you focus on your thoughts, on your reasons, on yourself and core. It helps you listen to your monkeys, understand them, and become more familiar with their bright and dark sides.
Anxiety is a common mental disorder in our nowadays society. Besides therapy, there are more solutions to this problem. Meditation is one of them and it can help you understand your thoughts better, change your perspective, and get a fresher one. It can help you relax and be less judgmental, silencing your anxiety.
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If you've ever felt as though life doesn't make much sense or as though you're drifting kind of aimlessly, then what you're missing is a real passion. Having passion in your life is often the secret to finding real happiness and there are countless reasons that this is the case.
If you're wondering what it means to have a real passion and why it's so important then read on and re-discover what really matters.
What is Passion?
When we're talking about passions, we're not talking about sex.
Sure, it's important to have passion in your relationship and this is one type of passion but it is also not the only type of passion there is.
Passion then refers instead to anything that you feel super excited about and anything that makes you eager to get out of bed in the morning. Everyone has different passions and there's no limit on what you can be passionate about, or on how many passions you can have.
For some, music is the burning passion that drives them while for others it's more about teaching, or math or Star Trek.
Really it doesn't matter what you're passionate about but what matters is that you have things that you feel completely excited about and that you let yourself feel that way about them.
Why Passion is So Important
So why is this so important?
Well for starters, having a passion – even one that other people don't find exciting – will give you tons to look forward to and to be interested in. Even if your passion is just ‘action films', it means that you'll have something to do in the evenings (watch old action films) and things to look forward to excitedly (Expendables 4).
Likewise, passions tell us about ourselves and they force us to grow. If you're passionate about music then you'll no doubt practice playing an instrument that will help you to develop dexterity, timing, rhythm, and creativity – and which will make you more attractive even to the opposite sex.
Passions can also give us direction in life. If you feel passionate about stopping global warming then that gives you a mission. No longer are you just living life from day to day, instead, you are working towards a goal and for a cause that's bigger than yourself. This is what makes people feel motivated and important.
So if you're wondering what it's all about, you're asking the wrong question. The question should be: what's it all about for you.
Conscious breathing is an important method for maintaining your well-being.
Luckily, anyone can learn the technique and use it on a regular basis to strengthen both mental and physical health. It’s easy!
Conscious Breathing in 4 East to Follow Steps
Discover more about this powerful health strategy:
1. What is conscious breathing?
Conscious breathing is becoming aware of the way you take in oxygen and release carbon dioxide from your body.
It’s just paying attention to your breathing.
It’s possible to use this technique during your normal activities.
There are different types of conscious breathing methods, but they all have similar aspects.
2. Enjoy these mental benefits of conscious breathing:
Conscious breathing can decrease stress and give you inner peace.
It can help you focus during difficult moments.
It can reduce fear, worry, and anxiety. It can help you deal with daily conflicts and issues.
Conscious breathing can help your mind by giving it enough oxygen to focus and strengthen your concentration. It can have a positive impact on memory and test results such as exams in school.
3. See its impact on your body.
Conscious breathing makes a positive impact on your overall health:
Practicing conscious breathing on a regular basis can strengthen lung function and reduce asthma. It may not be able to reverse all damage or issues, but it can make a difference.
Conscious breathing can also positively affect the cardiovascular system. Your body needs a constant flow of oxygen to function properly. By getting more oxygen, circulation, and blood flow improves.
Conscious breathing forces you to breathe through your nose. Breathing through the nose is healthier. It can make your mouth less dry. A dry mouth can cause tooth decay and affect the overall health of the tongue.
You might even reduce or eliminate snoring because, when you snore, you’re breathing through your open mouth. Even your relationships may improve with a decrease in snoring!
Conscious breathing can enhance your sleep and give you energy.
Conscious breathing can also affect your weight. Deep breathing can reduce snoring, which can affect hunger hormones. When you snore, you don’t get enough rest, so the hunger hormones increase and cause weight gain.
4. How to practice conscious breathing.
Conscious breathing requires you to focus on how you breathe.
It makes you think about the process and regulate it. Conscious breathing forces you to live in the moment and enjoy it.
You can become more aware of the process by putting your hand on your stomach. Relax and breathe in deeply through your nose. As you breathe in, your abdomen will rise. Then, pause and exhale gently. You can feel your abdomen go back down as you exhale.
You can even practice conscious breathing using various rhythms and patterns.
Try conscious breathing in a quiet room or area. Avoid interruptions from phones or other devices.
Combining meditation with conscious breathing makes the technique even more effective.
Conscious breathing is a teachable process that is easy to learn. It can have a positive influence on many aspects of your life.
Sometimes, she did it when she was with friends and making self-deprecating jokes. But other times, she did it when she was angry and wanted to express her disappointment in herself or her behavior.
Tracy, a good friend, finally called Veronica out on this habit. She said, “I don’t know if you’re aware of the way you speak about yourself but spoken words have more power than you realize. What you speak, you live out.”
Like Veronica, you may not realize it, but your words do affect every area of your life and they can impact you for years to come.
Your Words Affect Your Confidence
When she was feeling good about herself, Veronica used encouraging words to describe herself. She focused on self-care and body love when she had a victory moment like mastering a complex line of code for her website or getting a big project done on time.
But those moments were rare. Most of the time, Veronica nit-picked what she did and constantly looked for flaws in herself and in her work. As a result, these negative words affected her confidence and she often found herself feeling ashamed and wanting to hide.
Your Words Impact Your Attitude
How you approach a big project or tackle a difficult conversation can be impacted by the words you use beforehand. For example, if you say that you’re headed back to the salt mines before you go to work on your novel, you’re going to associate the task with boredom and drudgery.
But if you say that you’re off to work on the exciting adventure that is your novel, you’re more likely to approach your writing session with energy and enthusiasm. This doesn’t mean that everything you create during that session will be gold. However, you’re more likely to be happy with your work and enjoy the process if you approach it with the right attitude.
Your Words Create Your Level of Success
Michelle was going back to school to become a nurse. She wanted to earn high marks in all her classes. But she often found herself saying things like, “I’m not smart enough to handle the workload” or “I don’t have the brains in the family”.
Fortunately, one of Michelle’s college professors recognized her self-defeating talk and brought her attention to it. She explained, “Your words create your level of success in your life. If you speak as though you’re not going to finish your degree, you will believe that truth and live it out. Even if you don’t want to.”
The words you speak dictate your level of success—whether in your work, your relationships, or your hobbies. You can only go as far as you believe is possible in life and in business.
Your Words Can Heal Your Self-Image
Paula grew up with parents who were in and out of prison. She was frequently placed in foster homes where she was abused, starved, and unloved. When Paula got older, she viewed herself as broken and worthless.
But a wise mentor encouraged her to look at herself differently. He said, “The beautiful thing about a mosaic is that what’s broken can be made whole with some creativity and imagination.”
After that, Paula slowly began to change the way she spoke about herself. She no longer used the word broken, choosing instead to say that she was a work in progress, a masterpiece not yet complete. The more she began to speak these words, the more she found healing and wholeness.
And, don't forget but body language also plays into it too. Watch the following TED talk by Dr. Amy Cuddy.
Your Words Create Habits
As Michelle, the aspiring nurse, learned more about how her words affected her, she started paying attention to the ones she had around her habits. For example, she tended to say things that include:
I always overeat.
I can’t be on time to save my life.
I never make it to the gym.
Since she was challenging herself to create new habits, she decided to play with the words she used. When she found herself saying one of the three sentences above, she replaced it with a different one…
I’m learning self-control when it comes to portions.
I’m working to leave the house 10 minutes early.
I make the gym a priority.
The more she focused on changing her words, the more they came to life. Pretty soon, Michelle had a host of new, healthy habits that were fueling her body so she could reach her goal of becoming a nurse.
Your Words Produce Peace & Calm
Your words have a profound effect on your emotional state, too. Using certain words can alter your perception of events. For example, you could say, “I’m furious that my food is cold.”
With this statement, you’re focusing on a strong emotion (fury) over a minor problem that doesn’t fully deserve this reaction. But what would happen if you changed your words? You could say, “I’m annoyed that my food is cold.”
The verbs you choose to determine your emotions. If you choose mild words, you’re less likely to blow up over something seemingly small (like cold food).
Your Words Give You Space to Grow
It’s easy to talk about yourself in absolutes that don’t leave you open to new possibilities. For example, when Angela was struggling to grow her business, she often said, “I’ll never hit six-figures and be successful like my friends.”
The business coach she hired challenged Angela on her use of the word never.
“Never is a long time. Are you sure you want to apply that word to your situation?”
Negative absolutes (like never and always) can leave you feeling trapped and defeated when you use them. If you find yourself saying them a lot, pause and ask yourself. “Is this a statement that I want to be true about my life or business?”
If you truly want to grow into your best self, you must be willing to give up the mindsets that hold you back. That means making friends with your inner trickster (also known as ego). Thank her for her input then suggest that she sit down quietly because you have work to do.
Your Words Determine the Results You Get
Your words create your reality. They also determine the results you get. If you go to take a test in one of your college courses and you say you’ll fail, chances are high that you will. It doesn’t matter that you spent all night studying or that you know the material backward and forwards.
Your mind is incredibly powerful. It manifests what you say, regardless of whether what you said was positive or negative. This means you will always experience the outcomes you predict, even when they’re painful.
However, there is some good news.
You can change the results you get and the experiences you have by changing your words. If you approach the next test with confidence and the same dedication, you’re likely to ace it.
Because you believed it was possible, so your mind went to work manifesting it.
Your words are your most powerful resource. They can be a weapon you use to hurt yourself and cut down your potential. Or they can be an amazing tool you can use to harness to create more of what you want in your life and business.