I was scared but I did it anyway

I was scared but I did it anyway

It was about 11 years ago that I decided to challenge my fear of public speaking.

How did I do this?

It started with my mentor and coach inviting me to challenge my fear head-on… to join a Toastmasters International club.

Me and my extended family at Dojo Bali Toastmasters in Canggu, Bali, Indonesia.

His suggestion came on a Friday, and come Monday morning I was joining my first club.

I did what I needed to do — chose to change, and then followed it up with very, decisive and specific actions.

Everything changed as a result.

Limiting self-beliefs, underlying fears, and negative self-talk are just a few of the ways that we undermine our own desires, goals, and dreams.

If we don't like that, then own the desire to change!

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Many of the most confident people have anxieties when it comes to public speaking.

“There are three things to aim at in public speaking: first, to get into your subject, then to get your subject into yourself, and lastly, to get your subject into the heart of your audience.” – Alexander Gregg

Getting over a fear of anything can come with a huge amount of relief and the feeling of a large weight being lifted off your shoulders.

If you can overcome your fear of public speaking, it will open many different doors in terms of your career, personal life and confidence in general.

Here are 4 amazing benefits of getting over your fear of public speaking

✅ You will become more confident

Overcoming one of the scariest things for many people to do will definitely make you a more confident person in general. You will feel like now that you've conquered this fear, you will be able to conquer anything else. You'll feel more confident about having one-to-one chats with people, and you will also feel more comfortable in small groups and business meetings.

✅ You will be able to say yes to more

While you may have avoided agreeing to take part in various projects in the past just in case you had to present in front of a group or speak in meetings, you'll now feel that this won't phase you. As a result, you will be able to get involved in more things at work, thus enhancing the potential for further career progression.

✅ You won't care as much about what other people think

It's healthy to care to a certain degree about what other people think in order to maintain a professional attitude at work and a friendly and caring attitude with your friends and family. However, caring a lot about what people think of the way you look, the way you sound, the way you present or the professional arguments that you make isn't a good thing. Therefore, overcoming your fear of public speaking will help you not to focus on what other people are thinking and to focus more on how you feel.

✅ You can inspire others

One of the more effective ways to inspire people is just by speaking to them. Whether this is on a one-to-one basis, in a small group or in front of a large audience, you have an opportunity to inspire others to be the best version of themselves.

Whether this is advocating for a charity or cause which is close to your heart, encouraging people to have faith in themselves or promoting a brand you believe in, you can spread the word further and have a stronger effect.

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Best Ways to Condition the Mind and Live a Fitness Mindset

Best Ways to Condition the Mind and Live a Fitness Mindset

Keeping your body fit and healthy may be an ongoing battle in your mind. With a lot of things to think about and maybe some stressful situations here and there, it may become a continuous struggle for some people to maintain a good physique. Balancing your activities at work or school can be a constant struggle. To some people, the problem could be because of some physical conditions affecting their willingness to adopt a fitness-oriented mindset.

But did you know that you can condition your mind and body to become hyper-focused on your overall fitness?

In fact, this has been the secret of many athletes and fitness professionals to achieve success in their chosen field. And if you would like to embrace the very same mindset and start maintaining a healthy mind and body, here are…

7 Great habits that you should constantly apply in your everyday life

One) Do What Makes You Happy

The secret to a happy and fulfilling life is passion. Your passion for life, happiness, and health can do a great deal when it comes to acquiring a healthy lifestyle. It’s true that not everyone will have the same level of passion as others when it comes to staying fit. Some may find it burdensome, while others find it to be a priority. But it goes without saying that maintaining a healthy body is a necessity. Thus, adopting a fitness mindset is something that everyone should do.

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If you are passionate about keeping a healthy body, it will become a lot easier for you to stay active, eat healthily and avoid vices. Apart from that, doing what makes you feel good and happy every day can have a significant effect on your outlook in life. If you feel like you are on the right track to fulfilling your dreams and following your passion, it will be a lot easier for you to navigate through life and do things that will make you feel good. And that includes maintaining a fit and healthy body.

Two) Figure Out What's On In Your Brain

With your busy life of juggling your studies, social life and time for yourself, it may come as a great challenge to figure out what is going on inside your head. But if you want to have a better understanding of how your mind operates and what usually triggers your productivity, you will need to take time and look deeper within you. If you want to adopt this sort of practice, you can start by setting a time at least once a day to go to a quiet place, wherein you can focus, not just on the things that you need to do, but more importantly, on why you are doing what you are doing or why you are thinking the way you do.

The practice of meditation and mindfulness has proven wonders to a lot of successful people. With these practices, you can bring your attention to the various things you are sensing around you or within you at a given moment. You get to really think deeply about what you feel, hear or smell in the present.


It helps you relax and have a deeper understanding of how you operate as a person. Considering that you are jumpstarting a healthier lifestyle and would like to keep a fitter body, it is best that you start with your mental state. To be able to condition yourself for a new lifestyle, you should start by conditioning your mind first before you start with the rest of your body.

Mindfulness and meditation can also provide you a holistic healing and overall physical well-being. This practice can help you appreciate even the smallest pleasures in your life and help you achieve a clearer, more relaxed state of mind. This way, you will be more prepared in dealing with stressful situations. It can also help you fight depression, urges of substance abuse, as well as eating or anxiety disorders. Apart from an improved mental state, it can help lower your blood pressure, improve your sleep, reduce chronic pain and can even help in treating heart disease.

Three) Flip Negatives Into Positives

Sometimes, when we get tired or frustrated about some things in our lives, we tend to feel bad or think negatively about ourselves. In the end, it affects how we do things and even ruins our self-confidence. Staying confident about your abilities is very important, especially if you are trying something new for the first time. If you think about things like, “I don’t think I can do this.” or “I’m not really meant for something like this”, then this negative state of mind will definitely affect how you handle things in your life.

Be Positive Not Negative

This is especially true when it comes to involving yourself in some physical activities you are not used to doing. Of course, anything that you do the first time will be challenging. But it could also be just a state of mind. Thinking about getting past a certain obstacle is a good way to condition your mind and prepare your body for what it needs to do. Think about how you can deal with a situation, instead of what you can’t do. This way, you get to prepare yourself for the idea of accomplishment, instead of failure.

Maintaining a positive vibe matters. Yes, it’s important that you understand what the potential obstacles are, but it’s essential to look at these obstacles from a different angle. Having a better perspective about what you are up against can help you find a better way of getting past it. So even if it’s your first time to get into some fitness activities, be it weight lifting, jogging or aerobics, think about the positives and what you can do to accomplish them, even just by getting past one small step at a time.

Four) Give Positivity to Feel Positivity

Want to know how you can attract positivity into your life? Start by adopting a positive mindset. Some people say that whatever you throw out onto the world, it will give back to you ten folds. And it actually makes sense. In today’s world, we all tend to be living in our own little world. Witnessing the goodness and beauty of humanity has become a very rare occasion for us. But if you do nice things for others, you will get good things in return. And knowing that you have done something good helps you feel great about yourself.

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When it comes to conditioning your mind and body, feeling good about yourself and the world around you can go a long way. A fit body should start with a fit mind. And the best way to feel good is by attracting positivity into your life. An increased level of positivity can help you see things in a different light. It helps you think better and feel braver. You tend to feel like nothing is impossible. So if you want to feel good about your life, you should start by spreading some positive vibes and making the people around you feel that life can be amazing.

Now, if you are looking for more reasons to be more positive, you will be happy to know that adopting a positive mindset can help increase your lifespan. Staying positive helps lower your risks of distress and depression. It also promotes better mental and physical well-being and helps you cope with many stressful situations in life. In the same way, positivity can also improve your cardiovascular health. So by staying positive, you really have nothing to lose!

Five) Find The Tool to Fix Your Weakness

We all have our weaknesses. They can come in all shapes, sizes, and forms. And when it comes to starting a fitness-based lifestyle, it may be a problem with your physical strength, stamina, or overall well being. It can also be your confidence, time, financial situation or your availability. These concerns are all normal because that’s just how we humans are. We can not always be perfect. We are normally flawed individuals, but it is important that you understand what weaknesses and strengths you have. By knowing what you are good or bad at, you can create a plan on how you can live with what you’ve got, and make the most out of every situation presented to you.

Try to convert those weaknesses into an opportunity to improve. Figure out what can help you change for the better. If your challenges are more about your physical strength, there are ways for you to tackle this weakness. You can try some strength exercises and get a personal trainer who can keep you motivated and focused on your goal. By identifying ways that can help you target your weaknesses, you can eventually become a better version of yourself!

Six) Look After Your Body

You are an amazing machine! But just like every other natural or manmade machine, you need to maintain your body and keep it in good working condition. You have to keep your body well oiled so that it will operate effectively at all times. How do you do that? With proper rest and nutrition, of course. To maintain a fit and healthy body, you will need to provide it with some much-needed vitamins, minerals, and other essential nutrients.

In college, you may be involved in a lot of physical activities, but you have to maintain balance. Even heavy pieces of machinery need to rest, and so should you. Give your body enough time to recover after some strenuous physical and/or mental activities. You should also supply your body with an ample amount of nutrition to make sure that you have enough energy to get some work done. Eat a well-balanced meal, drink lots of water and get plenty of sleep. This way, your body will have enough time to recuperate and be ready for another busy day.

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Apart from changing your diet and your activities, you should also start adopting some supplemental activities such as physical therapy, nutritional supplementation, dietitian consultations, and personal training sessions. These steps may sound over-the-top, but if you want to make sure that every move you make is really helping you achieve your fitness goal, then these pursuits might just do the trick for you. Note that these extra steps are not requirements, but by consulting fitness and nutrition professionals, you can get a deeper insight and a more personalized approach on how you can achieve your fitness goal.

Seven) Put Your Tool Into Practice Every Day

Once you have found a way to ease into your fitness goal, this is when you should start to constantly practice. The only way for you to move forward is by giving yourself the opportunity to get stronger. Whether your fitness routine includes jogging, yoga or weight lifting, what you should keep in mind is that constant practice can help your body be more in tune with a fitness-oriented lifestyle. If you want to maintain a fit and healthy body, you basically have to change your habits and daily activities so that you can get closer to your goal.

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The best way for you to condition yourself is by practicing constantly. How else would a pianist learn how to play the piano? How else would you memorize a song or a poem? It’s all about practice. And if possible, it should be every day.

Adapting to a more physical, fitness-oriented lifestyle will be a great challenge, especially if you’ve never really been a fitness buff before. But this opportunity is a great thing to take on because it pays off in more ways than one. Apart from looking great, you also get to feel great because you are improving your lifestyle, nutrition, fitness, and mental state. For you to get used to this sort of lifestyle, it takes a lot of patience, discipline, and perseverance.

It won’t be easy — IT WILL be worth it — but with constant practice and by adopting new and healthier habits, you will soon see great progress and achieve the fitness goal you have been eyeing for a while now.


What is the difference between a Life Coach and Mentor?

What is the difference between a Life Coach and Mentor?

A life coach and a life mentor are two very different people.

Both individuals can serve a similar purpose: to help you navigate life's challenges and be in a position to continually improve yourself.

But, they serve very different roles and can add value in different ways. So this begs the question,

What is the difference between a Life Coach and Mentor?

One of the most famous examples of a life coach is Tony Robbins.

Tony Robbins is known around the world for being a motivational speaker. The view of life coaching is similar to working with a sports coach to improve game performance. The idea is that you need an objective perspective combined with the experience of a coach in order to be successful in life.

A life coach is able to provide valuable knowledge and experience that can help you throughout your journey.

A life mentor plays a slightly different role because they relay life experiences and relate them to your challenges and path. Life mentors are people who have taken a similar path to what you aspire to and offer the chance for you to learn from their experiences and accomplishments. The aim of working with a mentor is to take their experiences and apply them to your own life.

Mentors help you figure out a general direction for your life, while coaches ensure that you're making progress in the right direction.

In a sports team analogy, a coach is a person sitting on the sidelines and observing the behaviors of the team. The coach advises you on what skills you can improve on now in order to improve your sports outcome. A mentor would be a more experienced player who works with you after practice in order to help you improve your own skills based on their experience of being on the team. The coach and the mentor will both give you advice during practice or after the game, but the coach is more likely to be observing your behaviors and give you advice in the middle of the game.

Life coaching and mentorship can work hand in hand. Mentors help you figure out a general direction for your life, while coaches ensure that you're making progress in the right direction. Some people will respond better to a mentor, while others will respond better to a coach. Both are equally valuable to your success. Think about your goals and how you plan to achieve them.

In many cases, coaches and mentors serve a single purpose.

There are health coaches, and coaches who are focused on helping people lose weight. There are business mentors and innovation mentors who help people transfer technology. Some mentors and coaches are able to

With coaching and mentorship, you have an opportunity to be able to improve your competence and confidence.

You'll find greater self-esteem and better relationships with people around you.

You'll also be able to find greater satisfaction in life and find that you are able to achieve more of your personal goals.

It would be a huge mistake to not bring a coach or a mentor into your life, as these people are essential for your own growth. You'll find that you're more focused on your own goals and you're able to do great things for others.

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What is an Upper Limit Problem? And how it is holding you back in Life

What is an Upper Limit Problem? And how it is holding you back in Life

The UPPER LIMIT PROBLEM is the feeling that you will never be successful or never achieve what you want is often due to a lack of self-confidence or self-belief.

A lack of self-confidence can cause many problems for individuals, and for some people, one of these is an upper limit problem. Understanding upper limit problems and deciding whether or not you have one can take some time.

What is the ‘upper limit'?

Our personal upper limits are the limits that we have, sometimes subconsciously, set for ourselves. Maybe you can imagine yourself becoming a millionaire, but you can’t imagine more than that and feel like you probably wouldn’t try to earn more money once you become a millionaire. This is an example of setting a limit for yourself – you have a boundary within which you feel you should, or will, remain. Most of the time, this isn’t necessarily a concrete example of a limit e.g. money but is rather a limit on the amount of happiness you feel or the level of success you have at work.

What is the ‘upper limit problem'?

If you don’t feel like you want to raise your limits, or you feel constrained by upper limits (whether created intentionally by yourself or not), you could have an upper limit problem. An upper limit problem can interfere with your life and prevent you from experiencing happiness. Rather than embracing change, new experiences and new life challenges, you will feel compelled to avoid them, shy away and hope they go away.

Having an upper limit problem can affect your health, both physically and mentally. Avoiding new challenges and experiences could mean that when you are forced to confront something, you physically cannot handle it and become ill as a result. Adrenal fatigue and physical burnout can also affect you if you become too stressed and consumed with the idea of doing something that you feel you can’t.

You may also find yourself feeling a huge amount of guilt when you say no or make an excuse not to engage with someone or something which you feel you are not capable of. For example, if you are invited to present at a business meeting but decline because you feel you’ll do a bad job, you could find yourself feeling an overwhelming sense of guilt that only adds to your feelings of self-doubt and limitations.

Solving your upper limit problem

Like many problems, an upper limit problem isn’t something which will go away overnight. You can start by increasing your comfort zone – doing things which make you a little bit uncomfortable but on a regular basis. This will ensure that you prepare as effectively as you can for the big moments when you have the opportunity to reach higher.


What is a life coach? And what do they actually do?

What is a life coach? And what do they actually do?

It may not be something you want to hear, but the reality is many people, especially young people, don't know what to do with their lives.

A chunk of people feels directionless, which could be the reason some wonder about life coaching. Some wonder how effective it is and what it does. Others wonder if the effects are long-lasting. The following may shed light on everything you wanted to know about this profession.

What Exactly is Life Coaching?

The life coach profession can be considered many things; for example, some think it is just another counseling profession. Some people think a life coach is just a person who is attempting to get people pumped about the American dream.

The reality is this profession is more like therapy, except the goal is to help others spark the fire inside of them that empowers their goals.

It has nothing to do with reaching the American dream but rather everyone’s goals. A counselor is there to help guide others, but a life coach is there to allow each person to find the map so that they can get to their destination.

What Does a Life Coach Do?

Okay, so now that you know the purpose of this type of coaching, you are probably curious about how this person accomplishes what he or she sets out to do. First off, individuals become a client's friend. This is because the coach must get to know a client before moving forward.

The coach has several strategies to help clients define themselves. Once the client has been able to define him or herself, the client is ready to focus on identifying a goal.

The coach begins to figure out who you are in order to find the best way to motivate you to reach your goal. Most of the time, the coach creates an action plan that not only guides but adds different challenges that should help you learn how to self-motivate.

It is important to point out that there are various types of coaches, so make sure you consider the one you need:

  • A general coach deals with life in general.
  • Life balance coaches help you find a way to balance your responsibilities, along with your leisure and family time.
  • Health coaches are there to help you reach your health goals.
  • A small business coach is well-versed in business and can help you reach success.
  • Personal finance coaches are there to help you learn financial literacy.
  • Relationship coaches help you figure out what kind of person you are looking for.

It is important that the right type of coach is found, or the partnership will not be as successful. Sure, the coach should be trained, certified, and experienced, but there is much more to pairing than that.

Hiring a coach is also about making sure you connect with this person. After all, the client is going to be spending a lot of time with the coach, so it is a good idea for both to get along. It is recommended that the coach and potential client meet a few times to get to know each other to see if they are compatible.

Hopefully, some of these points make it easier for you to answer, “what does a life coach do?” There is no doubt about it; it is time-consuming work but helping to shape a person's life is not done overnight.


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