The waves of emotions still ebb and flow as people continue to reach out with words of encouragement and empathetic comments.
It's been several weeks since publishing my article, “Seeking a Life Free of Addiction Started with a Choice“, and the messages keep coming. None is more overwhelming than the private messages recounting of ‘blackout' nights, broken families, and worse, the death of loved ones through abuse of alcohol and drugs.
The pursuit of Happiness or Pursuit of ‘Me'
My want to stop drinking alcohol all started as a choice – as simple as it was to make, it was anything but easy. The support networks I sought out didn't jive with who I was nor with who I was trying to be, which left me wondering, “What do I do?” And based on those that have reached out, there's a lot of people in the same place I was years ago when I made my choice to stop drinking.
As a result, I've been in weekly discussions with Saint Jude Retreats, an organization dedicated to helping people gain control over their own lives, and effect lasting changes in their attitudes, motivations, choices, and behaviors. They've been inspired to look further into how they can best serve people who may be struggling with their own substance use issues. The belief we share is that of the many people struggling to see “addiction” as some sort of incurable disease. That along with high failure rates and counter-intuitive methods of traditional treatments, many may simply not even attempt to find the best methods for help. And to be fair, it may be difficult for people to truly know the best way to go about trying to help a family member or friend who's struggling because they may not have any experience with feeling hopeless and trapped.
When it comes to addiction, there are 2 types of people
In my experience in working with Saint Jude’s, based on the feedback I’ve received, there are two types of people: those that BELIEVE THEY CAN overcome addiction and those who BELIEVE THEY CAN'T. Based on the overwhelming feedback, comments, and outreach from my communities and the media, I feel it necessary to get some deeper insights from you, my tribe. To best help, I need to better understand what people think about addiction, and what better way to do that than with a survey. The survey consists of 10 questions, mostly multiple-choice, and takes only a couple of minutes to complete. Armed with your responses I will be working with Saint Jude Retreats to create more resources including articles and videos, to better help those who face struggles similar to that which I experienced for much of my life. Thank you for your help. Special note, as a thank you for taking the time to complete the survey, I want to personally offer you a special gift. Check out the survey to see.
Take the #AddictionFreeLife Survey by clicking the button below.
I'm like everyone else and experiences low moments in life and at those times I find myself questioning my choices. The Dai of years ago would have reached for a bottle to numb the emotions of uncertainty, since the Dai of today (besides speaking in 3rd person) remembers the important choices and decisions made in his life. The journey I've found myself on has had it's up days and down days. When I find myself having one of those days, I reach out to those that matter most to me in my life – my wife, my children, my tribe – their unconditional love, support, and friendship reminds me of my decision to choose ‘me' first. Having a positive outlet to bring you back to a place of gratefulness and appreciation for life, and all the awesomeness it holds for us is key. Thank you for choosing you, too.
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